After reading a very good post on the subject of chivalry at http://www.onewaypurpose.com/2006/07/05/chivalry-in-a-modern-world/
I wanted to share an observation or two regarding the subject...first hand.
For the most part, I was raised to practice the simpler things of chivalry, such as door holding and plodding out in the rain to get the umbrella, while the females waited under cover. I'm from the South, had a decent Christian upbringing and would really be ashamed for not doing the things that a man should do. I have lived in a house with five females for thirteen years, until my son arrived seven years ago, which raised the odds a little...but we're still quite outnumbered. I make it a point to tell Mrs. Arkanblogger that her meals are delicious and do the same when my daughters, my mother, my mother-in-law and any other females in our out of our family, have put forth an effort to produce a meal, whether it may be one of my favorites, or a strange dish to me. My son, with my encouragement and explanations, now follows suit; even jumping the gun on me from time to time.
As the father of four daughters, ages eleven to eighteen, I have had cause to observe the behavior of young males, interacting with my girls in different settings. What I have seen is for the most part, disappointing. So many of these young fellows, who are mostly homeschooled and from "Christian" homes, don't do so much as hold a door at church for my children, much less any other female, young or old...unless they are trying to get the attention of a specific young lady. I have also observed these same boys doing no such thing for other females present.
On another hand, I have personally held the door many times in public for complete strangers and what I recieve about half the time is silence. The older generation of women (40 plus)seems to recognize these traits and will generally make it a point to thank me. The younger crowd has their head in the clouds...or the world...generally speaking.
Now, I want to point out that I don't do these things for the thank you. I do them because they should be done. But just as there should be an obligation on the part of men to engage in Chivalry, I believe that there should be a simple reciprocation of appreciativeness from the part of the reciever of the "blessing" of said Chivalry. Just as when someone recieves a a bit of unexpected good news and tells the giver of the news, "thank you". This I believe, could simply fall under the law of loving your neighbor as yourself. I also hold the door for older gentlemen, when I recognize that they might not have the strength to do it themselves. Let's engage in Chivalry, shall we?